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Why Intimacy Often Fades After Having Children
Many couples notice this gradually. Conversations become practical. Physical affection becomes functional. Parenting takes priority, and the relationship slowly shifts from partnership to co-management. There may still be care, stability, and teamwork — yet emotional intimacy and desire quietly begin to fade. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, discuss how to reverse the trend.
Why Boredom is Great for Kids
"I’m bored!" It’s a phrase that can instantly trigger a parent’s guilt or a frantic rush to find entertainment. But what if empty time is actually the greatest developmental gift you can give your child? Learn why boredom is crucial for your child’s development and how you can hold the boundary and step back with confidence.
Why Parenting Feels So Hard (And Why You're Not Failing)
Becoming a parent is often described as one of life’s most joyful experiences—but for many, it also brings unexpected stress, self-doubt, and emotional overwhelm. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why does this feel so hard?” or “Am I doing this right?”, you’re not alone. Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning, shares that parenting rarely matches the expectations we carry into it, and understanding this gap is the first step toward finding balance, confidence, and support.
Doctor Recommended CBT for Your Child? Here’s What It Actually Means
When a doctor recommends CBT for your child, it can feel both reassuring and confusing. What exactly is CBT, and how will it help your child manage anxiety? Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning, explains understanding how this evidence-based therapy works can give you confidence in supporting your child’s emotional wellbeing and progress.
Is Discipline or Trust More Important in Parenting? What the Marshmallow Experiment Really Shows
Research shows that children’s ability to wait is strongly influenced by trust and predictability in their environment. When children trust that promises will be kept, they are more likely to delay gratification. Research shows that children’s ability to wait is strongly influenced by trust and predictability in their environment. When children trust that promises will be kept, they are more likely to delay gratification.
Why Your Child Doesn’t Listen (And What Actually Works for Parents)
Many parents feel frustrated when their child seems to ignore instructions. Whether it’s a young child absorbed in play or a teenager who appears to tune out completely, these moments can easily turn into repeated reminders, raised voices, or power struggles. Yet children often struggle to respond not because they refuse to cooperate, but because of developmental, emotional, or attention-related factors. Psychologist, Ho Shee Wai, shares how understanding what may be happening beneath the surface can help parents respond in ways that encourage cooperation while strengthening the parent-child relationship.
How Parents Can Build Emotional Intelligence in Children Through Safe Space Responses
Parents play a powerful role in shaping their children’s emotional intelligence. When children feel safe expressing their emotions, they develop stronger resilience, empathy, and communication skills. Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning, explores how “safe space responses” help children understand and regulate their emotions, strengthening both their wellbeing and family relationships.
Feeling Lost After Becoming a Parent? Understanding Identity Shift
Many parents don’t feel burnt out — they feel lost. Somewhere between caring for everyone else, they stop recognising themselves. This quiet identity shift — sometimes called a parent identity crisis — is more common than people realise. Psychologist Ho Shee Wai explains why it happens and how you can find your way back.
Expatriate Parenting: Raising your Children in a New Country
Moving your family to Singapore as an expatriate can feel like a dream, until the honeymoon fades and real parenting begins. Without grandparents or familiar friends you carry the invisible work of helping kids feel safe, seen, and settled. Let’s explore how how you can best support your family during the transition.
Does My Child Need an Autism Assessment? How Psychologists Get Clarity (Including ADOS)
Most parents don’t wake up thinking, “I should get an autism assessment.” They wake up thinking, “Something doesn’t feel quite right.” Whether it’s delayed communication, emotional outbursts, or a child who seems bright but socially lost, many parents spend months wondering whether to wait or seek help. An autism assessment isn’t about rushing to a label — it’s about understanding how your child experiences the world and what support may help. In this article, psychologist Ho Shee Wai explains how clinicians assess autism and where tools like ADOS fit in.
Why the Men in Your Life Feel So Hard to Understand (Father, Husband, Son)
Many women didn’t come to counselling because they want to change the men in their lives. They came because they feel confused, exhausted, or alone — trying to connect with a father who won’t talk, a partner who shuts down, or a son who seems unreachable. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is he like this?” — not in anger, but in longing — this article is for you. Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Parenting Coach, Ben Ang, discusses how you can understand the men in your life.
Breathe for Calm: Family Emotional Health
In today’s fast-paced world, many children and parents feel overwhelmed, anxious, and constantly “on edge.” The good news is that calm can begin with something as simple as a breath. Counsellor & Parenting Coach introduces easy, science-based breathing techniques families can use together to strengthen emotional regulation, reduce stress, and build lifelong resilience.
Modeling Holiday Priorities: How Parents Can Create Calm, Connection & Meaning for Their Kids
The holiday season promises joy, connection, and festive magic—but for many parents, it also brings overstimulation, expectations, and an endless to-do list. Children don’t learn holiday values from what we tell them; they learn from what we model. When our behaviour shows connection, gratitude, empathy, and emotional regulation—even in busy seasons—we give our children a powerful roadmap for how to navigate stress and celebrate meaningfully. Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning, discusses what will help you prioritise what truly matters and teach your children the heart of the holidays through your everyday actions.
A Psychological Guide to Creating Christmas Magic for Your Children
Let’s explore the psychology behind why Christmas feels so powerful for children, how to support their emotional needs during the holidays, and how to create that Christmas magic to make this season more meaningful (and manageable) for your whole family.
Asking Questions as a Strategy to Build Cooperation and Problem Solving in Your Child
Instead of telling your child what to do, try asking questions that spark thinking, problem solving, and confidence. Discover how curiosity-based parenting builds independence and strengthens your bond with Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning.
How Do I Motivate My Child or Teen? A Practical Guide
Every child wants to do well—when they feel they can. If your child or teen seems “unmotivated,” it’s usually not laziness. It’s a signal: I’m overwhelmed, unsure, or exhausted. Psychologist, Ho Shee Wai offers calm, practical steps to rebuild motivation at a pace that actually works—without shouting matches or endless nagging.
Welcoming a New Baby and Preparing Your Toddler for Change
Welcoming a new baby is a joyful milestone, but it can stir a whirlwind of emotions for your toddler and for you. Jealousy, confusion, and regression are common as your child adjusts to sharing your attention. This blog offers practical tips for both the parents and your toddler, to feel seen and secure during this big change.
Healing from Parental Heartache
Parental heartache is one of the most hidden forms of grief. While society speaks openly about break-ups or romantic heartbreak, few acknowledge the deep pain parents feel when their child rejects them, cuts off contact, or is tragically lost. This silence can leave parents carrying invisible wounds, wondering where to turn for healing. In this article, psychologist Ho Shee Wai explores the realities of parental grief, why it hurts so deeply, and how parents can begin the journey of healing from rejection, estrangement, or loss.
The Impact of Screen Time on Childhood Development: What Parents Need to Know
Are screens shaping your child's future? Discover the surprising truth about the impact of screen time on childhood development and physical, emotional, and cognitive well-being. Learn how to strike a balance to promote healthy habits and a positive relationship with technology for a brighter future.
What to Say to Your Toddler When You’re Emotionally Overwhelmed
What we say to our toddlers in moments when our stress peaks and emotions run high can shape their sense of safety, love, and boundaries. Discover alternative phrases to stay grounded and connect with your little one, even when you're feeling overwhelmed.