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Skip the Resolutions: How Counselling Can Create Lasting Change in the New Year
Every January, millions of people promise themselves a fresh start—only to feel guilty, stuck, or overwhelmed just weeks later. If you’re tired of repeating the same cycle each year, you’re not alone. Real, sustainable change doesn’t come from resolutions or willpower. It comes from understanding yourself more deeply. Before setting another goal you won’t keep, discover how counselling can help you make meaningful, lasting change that aligns with who you truly want to be with psychologist, Ho Shee Wai.
Navigating Change in Long-Term Relationships
After years together, every couple experiences shifts—some expected, some surprising. You may still love each other deeply, yet feel more like teammates than partners. You may notice more distance, fewer conversations, or a growing sense that life is about managing, not connecting. If this resonates, it doesn’t mean your relationship is failing. It means you’re human, and your partnership is evolving. Counsellor Lim Swee Chen explores why long-term relationships change and how couples can reconnect with empathy, curiosity, and intentional effort.
Modeling Holiday Priorities: How Parents Can Create Calm, Connection & Meaning for Their Kids
The holiday season promises joy, connection, and festive magic—but for many parents, it also brings overstimulation, expectations, and an endless to-do list. Children don’t learn holiday values from what we tell them; they learn from what we model. When our behaviour shows connection, gratitude, empathy, and emotional regulation—even in busy seasons—we give our children a powerful roadmap for how to navigate stress and celebrate meaningfully. Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning, discusses what will help you prioritise what truly matters and teach your children the heart of the holidays through your everyday actions.
A Psychological Guide to Creating Christmas Magic for Your Children
Let’s explore the psychology behind why Christmas feels so powerful for children, how to support their emotional needs during the holidays, and how to create that Christmas magic to make this season more meaningful (and manageable) for your whole family.
Neurodivergent vs Neurotypical: Key Differences, Real Strengths & How to Celebrate Brain Diversity
Brains do not come in one default setting. The terms neurodivergent and neurotypical help us name something that has always been true—some people’s brains process communication, learning, senses, and structure differently, often bringing exceptional strengths like creativity, hyperfocus, and detail-driven problem solving, while navigating invisible barriers in education, workplaces, and social expectations built around “typical” norms. Counsellor Lim Swee Chen helps you understand these differences without judgement, reframe challenges with compassion, and discover the joy that comes when you stop masking or comparing, and begin celebrating brain diversity in yourself, your children, and your community—especially across Singapore and Malaysia where cross-border adults are increasingly exploring their neurodiversity journey later in life.
Reviving Your Connection: How a Sexologist Can Help You Reignite Intimacy
Feeling close but miles apart? A sexologist offers a safe, practical path to rebuild trust, desire, and connection—so intimacy feels natural again. Learn how with Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, of The Counselling Place Singapore.
How Unhealthy Thinking Fuels Mental Health Challenges (And How CBT Helps)
Unhealthy thinking patterns often operate beneath the surface of mental health struggles, quietly shaping our emotions, decisions, and relationships. In psychology, these habitual errors are known as cognitive distortions—biased mental shortcuts that twist how we interpret ourselves, others, and life events. While everyone experiences them occasionally, when distortions become automatic and repetitive, they can fuel depression, intensify stress, and drain hope. The good news? These patterns are learned, meaning they can also be unlearned. With the right tools, especially Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), distorted thoughts can be challenged, reframed, and replaced with healthier perspectives that lighten emotional burdens and restore a sense of control. Learn how with Counsellor, Paula Brunning, of The Counselling Place Singapore.
Asking Questions as a Strategy to Build Cooperation and Problem Solving in Your Child
Instead of telling your child what to do, try asking questions that spark thinking, problem solving, and confidence. Discover how curiosity-based parenting builds independence and strengthens your bond with Counsellor & Parenting Coach, Paula Brunning.
How to Support your Partner Through an Alcohol Use Issue
Supporting a partner through alcohol concerns can feel overwhelming, but understanding Alcohol Use Disorder and its impacts is a powerful first step. Whether you're just recognizing early signs, or navigating long-standing challenges, this blog post offers practical strategies and hope for moving forward together.
When One Partner Isn’t Ready: How to Understand & Ease Resistance to Couples Therapy
It’s common for one partner to feel ready for couples therapy while the other feels unsure, anxious, or defensive. This doesn’t mean they don’t care — often, it means they are afraid of being blamed, judged, or misunderstood. In this article, Counsellor Lim Swee Chen explores where that fear comes from and how couples can approach therapy together in a way that feels safer, more respectful, and collaborative.
Debunking 8 Sexual Myths That Quietly Hurt Intimacy
We live in the information age—yet sexual myths still shape what happens in the bedroom. This guide by Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, dismantles eight big misconceptions with research-based truths you can actually use, so you can swap shame for confidence and build deeper intimacy.
Connection as a Couple: Too Close? Too Far? What Is the Appropriate Distance for Us?
Are you and your partner feeling too distant or too entangled? Discover the secret to a healthy, thriving relationship by finding the right balance between independence and togetherness. Learn how interdependency—built on appreciation, communication, and shared growth—can strengthen your bond with Psychologist, Ho Shee Wai.
How Do I Motivate My Child or Teen? A Practical Guide
Every child wants to do well—when they feel they can. If your child or teen seems “unmotivated,” it’s usually not laziness. It’s a signal: I’m overwhelmed, unsure, or exhausted. Psychologist, Ho Shee Wai offers calm, practical steps to rebuild motivation at a pace that actually works—without shouting matches or endless nagging.
Love on the Spectrum: Building Neurodiverse Relationships in Singapore
Love can look and feel different on the spectrum—and that difference can be a strength. Counsellor, Lim Swee Chen offers clear, compassionate tools for autistic and neurotypical partners to communicate better, honour sensory needs, and rebuild connection. If you’re seeking neurodiverse couples therapy in Singapore or simply clearer ways to connect, this guide offers practical, judgment-free steps.
Grief After Divorce: Heal, Reclaim, and Rebuild
Divorce isn’t just a legal event—it’s a profound emotional rupture. Counsellor Paula Brunning offers a compassionate, evidence-informed path to feel, heal, and steadily rebuild your life after loss, including when the relationship involved manipulation or control.
Welcoming a New Baby and Preparing Your Toddler for Change
Welcoming a new baby is a joyful milestone, but it can stir a whirlwind of emotions for your toddler and for you. Jealousy, confusion, and regression are common as your child adjusts to sharing your attention. This blog offers practical tips for both the parents and your toddler, to feel seen and secure during this big change.
Navigating Dating After Divorce: Rebounds, Readiness, and Real Connections
Dating after divorce can feel like stepping into another world. Some jump in quickly and end up in rebounds, while others avoid dating altogether, worried about getting hurt again. The truth? There’s no single “right time” to start. What matters is understanding your readiness, learning from the past, and approaching dating as a chance for growth and authentic connection. This guide by sex therapist & relationship counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee will help you navigate dating after divorce with confidence—whether you’re seeking companionship, fun, or a long-term partner.
Establishing Self-Care that is trauma-informed
Trauma leaves more than memories—it leaves imprints on the body, nervous system, and sense of self. While self-care is often promoted as bubble baths and productivity hacks, true trauma-informed self-care goes deeper. It’s about creating safety, restoring regulation, and practicing compassion in ways that honor your lived experiences. Counsellor, Paula Brunning, explores practical strategies—grounding, movement, boundaries, and daily nourishment—that can help you move from survival toward healing.
Doing It All—At What Cost?
In today’s fast-paced, hyper-connected world, busyness often masquerades as success. We cram our calendars, juggle endless responsibilities, and convince ourselves that overwhelm is proof we’re managing life well. Yet many clients in therapy share the same story: exhaustion, anxiety, and disconnection—despite staying “busy.” Beneath this constant overdrive lie patterns that may sabotage wellbeing: avoidant coping, inefficient multitasking, and overscheduling. Let’s unpack how these habits affect mental health with Counsellor, Lim Swee Chen, and how small mindful shifts can bring clarity and balance.
The Unspoken Truths About Long-Term Relationships Nobody Warns You About
Long-term love isn’t always butterflies and fireworks—and that’s not a bad thing. From the quiet routines that hold couples together to the unglamorous admin of life, discover the unspoken truths about relationships that Hollywood never tells you with Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee.