Can someone be independent, successful, and simply lose interest in sex? Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explores why low sexual desire is not always a problem to fix, but may reflect changing priorities, autonomy, or emotional self-protection—and how to tell the difference.

Many couples believe their biggest problems are about money, chores, intimacy, or parenting. In reality, these conflicts are often driven by something less visible: unspoken expectations in marriage. When partners assume the other person should "just know" what they need, disappointment and repeated arguments can follow. Understanding where these expectations come from is often the first step towards building a healthier and more connected relationship.

Many people stay in emotionally painful relationships not because they lack love, but because they slowly lose connection with themselves in the process. Patience can be healthy and grounding — but when it comes at the cost of your emotional wellbeing, it may become self-abandonment instead. In this article, Psychotherapist Calista Goh-Therond explores the subtle but important difference between the two, and how recognising it can help you build healthier boundaries, stronger self-respect, and more emotionally safe relationships.

Many couples still care deeply for each other — yet feel emotionally distant, lonely, or stuck in constant conflict. Some describe their marriage as feeling more like roommates than romantic partners. Others feel trapped in an emotionally disconnected relationship where conversations revolve only around chores, schedules, children, or responsibilities. What happened to the passion, closeness, and emotional intimacy that once felt effortless? Psychologist Ho Shee Wai shares why sometimes, love alone is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship over time.

Many men believe anger is the problem. But beneath the anger is often something far more painful — shame, fear, inadequacy, and the quiet belief of “I am not enough.” Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Ben Ang, explains why understanding what sits beneath defensiveness, emotional shutdown, and withdrawal can transform relationships and emotional connection.

You can love someone deeply—and still feel alone in the relationship. Not because love is missing, but because emotional maturity is. Psychotherapist, Calista Goh-Therond, explains the difference between a “boy” and a “man” in relationships isn’t age—it’s how they handle conflict, responsibility, and emotional connection.

You’re functioning. You’re capable. You’re showing up. But something feels… missing. Not broken — just out of reach. For many high-functioning adults, desire doesn’t disappear because attraction is gone. It fades because there’s no space left to feel anything at all. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, talks about what to do.

Many people who feel they have lost sexual desire in a relationship are not actually losing attraction — they are carrying too much mental load. Many people describe feeling constantly responsible for what needs to happen next—remembering, anticipating, organising, and holding everything together. Over time, this invisible mental responsibility can quietly reshape emotional and sexual intimacy within relationships. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explains how when the mind is constantly managing life, there may be little space left for desire.