Many people who feel they have lost sexual desire in a relationship are not actually losing attraction — they are carrying too much mental load. Many people describe feeling constantly responsible for what needs to happen next—remembering, anticipating, organising, and holding everything together. Over time, this invisible mental responsibility can quietly reshape emotional and sexual intimacy within relationships. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explains how when the mind is constantly managing life, there may be little space left for desire.

International Women’s Day invites us to celebrate women’s achievements and contributions. It is also an opportunity to reflect on the invisible mental and emotional load many women carry in relationships and families. In counselling, Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Ben Ang, often sees how unspoken expectations around work, caregiving, and emotional support shape relationship dynamics over time.