Is It Just a Phase? A Parenting Guide to Recognizing Early Signs of Autism

By Ho Shee Wai

Director / Registered Psychologist

Is It Just a Phrase? A Parenting Guide to Recognizing Early Signs of Autism

As a parent, it’s natural to wonder whether your child’s behaviors are part of normal development or signs of something more. From late talking to unique social patterns, early signs of autism can be subtle — and confusing. In this guide, psychologist Ho Shee Wai helps you understand what to look for, when to seek help, and how an autism assessment can offer clarity, support, and a path forward for your family.

• What are early signs of autism parents should watch for?

  Early signs can include delayed speech, limited eye contact, repetitive movements, strong attachment to routines, and challenges with social interaction. Every child is unique, so it’s important to look at patterns, not isolated behaviors.

• At what age can a child be assessed for autism?

  Signs can sometimes be noticed as early as 18–24 months, and formal assessments can be done from toddlerhood onward. Early assessment allows for earlier support, which can positively impact a child’s development. However, there is no “too late”, even up to teenage or adulthood assessment can be done.

• Will an autism diagnosis change how people treat my child?

  A diagnosis doesn’t define your child — it helps family, educators, and therapists better understand their needs and strengths. It opens doors to tailored support, resources, and strategies to help them thrive.

• What does an autism assessment involve?

  It typically includes parent interviews, child observations, standardized tests, and sometimes input from teachers. The goal is to build a full picture of your child’s development, not just assign a label.

The Heart of Every Parent: Wishing the Best for Our Children

Every parent hopes and dreams for their child to thrive. But what do you do when you start noticing your child developing differently from others?

At some point, many parents wonder — is this typical, or should I be concerned? Early childhood is full of variation, but knowing when to seek help matters. This blog offers clear guidance on what’s part of normal development and what red flags may signal the need to investigate further. We’ll also explain how a professional autism assessment can provide answers, reassurance, and next steps.

Common Early Signs Parents Notice

Communication Differences

In typical development, language emerges around 12–16 months. Autistic children, however, may show delays or differences in how they acquire language. Some may speak late, around 2–3 years or later, while others may remain minimally verbal or nonverbal (about 25–30% of autistic children).

Limited use of gestures is another sign — for example, pointing to share interest, waving goodbye, or nodding. Some children struggle to use gestures effectively, making it harder to communicate wants and needs.

Social Interaction Challenges

Eye contact usually develops around 6–8 weeks, strengthening over time. Autistic infants may show declining eye contact between 2–6 months — even if they initially seemed typical.

Parallel play (playing alongside, not with, other children) is a normal stage between 18 months and 3 years. But while neurotypical children gradually transition to cooperative play, autistic children may stay in parallel play longer, sometimes well into school age, often focused on unique interests or sensory experiences.

Repetitive Behaviors

Many young children line up toys or repeat routines — it’s part of learning. But in autism, these behaviors are often more intense, inflexible, and disruptive.

While neurotypical children might tolerate a change in routine, autistic children often show strong resistance to change, needing sameness to feel calm. It’s not just a quirk — it can significantly impact family life.

Sensory Sensitivities

Autistic individuals may be hypersensitive (over-reactive) or hyposensitive (under-reactive) to sounds, textures, lights, or movements. This could look like covering ears for certain noises, refusing specific fabrics, or seeking intense sensory input like spinning or jumping.

While some sensory quirks are normal, when they affect daily life or cause distress, they can be a sign of autism.

Why Early Assessment Matters

It’s easy to hope children will “grow out of” delays — but early diagnosis is key.

The early years are a critical window for brain development. Timely intervention can maximize your child’s potential, help them develop essential skills, and reduce long-term challenges.

One common myth is “I don’t want my child labeled.” But an assessment doesn’t label — it understands. It gives you, as parents, a roadmap to help your child and access services, support, and educational accommodations. Without a diagnosis, children risk missing out on the help they need to thrive.

What Happens During an Autism Assessment?

An autism assessment is a comprehensive, multi-step process carried out by trained Psychologist. Here’s what to expect:

Parent Interviews:

To understand developmental history, family observations, and specific concerns.

Direct Child Assessment:

Using standardized tools to observe communication, play, social interaction, and behavior.

Feedback and Recommendations:

You’ll receive a detailed report explaining the findings, possible diagnosis, and practical next steps — from therapy recommendations to educational planning.

Many parents describe feeling relief after an assessment — finally understanding their child’s behaviors and having a clearer plan for moving forward.

Taking the First Step: How We Can Support You

If you’ve been wondering, “Is it just a phase, or is there something more?” — you’re not alone.

At our clinic, we offer compassionate, evidence-based autism assessments tailored to your child’s age and needs. We don’t just assess; we walk alongside you, providing guidance, resources, and emotional support so you can confidently support your child’s unique journey.

Parent’s Emotional Journey

Your Emotions Matter Too

As parents, it’s easy to focus so entirely on your child that you overlook your own feelings. Many parents navigating an autism journey experience grief, guilt, confusion, or isolation. These emotions are valid. Seeking assessment and support isn’t just about helping your child — it’s about giving yourself tools, resources, and a supportive space to process and heal. Remember, caring for yourself strengthens your capacity to care for your child.

A Story of Hope

I once worked with a family whose little boy, Adam*, was struggling with language delays, meltdowns, and disconnection at preschool. His parents were overwhelmed but hesitant about an assessment, worried it would “label” him. After assessment and early intervention, Adam flourished. His language grew, his interactions blossomed, and most importantly, his parents gained confidence and joy in understanding and connecting with him. Every child’s path is unique, but with early support, families often experience profound growth and relief.

*Not his real name

Final Words of Encouragement

Remember: noticing differences isn’t a sign you’re failing as a parent — it’s a sign you’re paying attention. Seeking help early is one of the most loving, courageous things you can do.

If you’re ready to explore whether an autism assessment is right for your child, we’re here to help.

Want help understanding your child’s development? Contact us today for an autism assessment or consultation. You don’t have to navigate this alone.