Dr Martha Tara Lee

Why can sexual desire suddenly return just as a relationship is ending? Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explores the psychology of break-up sex — from attachment and emotional regulation to closure, consent and the difficulty of letting go.

Financial stress doesn't stay in your bank account. It can follow you into your relationship, changing how you experience rest, pleasure, sexual desire and connection. When life becomes organised around earning, saving and staying afloat, intimacy can quietly start to feel like something that can wait. Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist Dr Martha Tara Lee explores why money pressure can affect desire — and what happens when survival mode becomes a way of life.

Why do some men stop trying in dating or relationships? It is often assumed to be anger, entitlement, or a loss of interest. Yet for many men, emotional withdrawal develops more quietly through repeated rejection, diminished confidence, and the growing sense that effort no longer leads to connection. Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor Dr Martha Tara Lee explains how understanding these different pathways helps distinguish healthy self-protection from emotional avoidance, controlling behaviour, and patterns of disengagement that can ultimately harm relationships.

Can someone be independent, successful, and simply lose interest in sex? Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explores why low sexual desire is not always a problem to fix, but may reflect changing priorities, autonomy, or emotional self-protection—and how to tell the difference.

Many couples notice this gradually. Conversations become practical. Physical affection becomes functional. Parenting takes priority, and the relationship slowly shifts from partnership to co-management. There may still be care, stability, and teamwork — yet emotional intimacy and desire quietly begin to fade. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, discuss how to reverse the trend.

You’re functioning. You’re capable. You’re showing up. But something feels… missing. Not broken — just out of reach. For many high-functioning adults, desire doesn’t disappear because attraction is gone. It fades because there’s no space left to feel anything at all. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, talks about what to do.

Many people who feel they have lost sexual desire in a relationship are not actually losing attraction — they are carrying too much mental load. Many people describe feeling constantly responsible for what needs to happen next—remembering, anticipating, organising, and holding everything together. Over time, this invisible mental responsibility can quietly reshape emotional and sexual intimacy within relationships. Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explains how when the mind is constantly managing life, there may be little space left for desire.

Sex Therapist & Relationship Counsellor, Dr Martha Tara Lee, explores the psychology of consensual unwanted sex — situations where intimacy is chosen but not truly desired, and where consent exists without genuine wanting — how intimacy can become a form of obligation, why desire fades in these dynamics, and what it means for emotional and relational wellbeing.