Many men believe anger is the problem. But beneath the anger is often something far more painful — shame, fear, inadequacy, and the quiet belief of “I am not enough.” Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Ben Ang, explains why understanding what sits beneath defensiveness, emotional shutdown, and withdrawal can transform relationships and emotional connection.

Research shows that children’s ability to wait is strongly influenced by trust and predictability in their environment. When children trust that promises will be kept, they are more likely to delay gratification. Research shows that children’s ability to wait is strongly influenced by trust and predictability in their environment. When children trust that promises will be kept, they are more likely to delay gratification.

International Women’s Day invites us to celebrate women’s achievements and contributions. It is also an opportunity to reflect on the invisible mental and emotional load many women carry in relationships and families. In counselling, Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Ben Ang, often sees how unspoken expectations around work, caregiving, and emotional support shape relationship dynamics over time.

Many women didn’t come to counselling because they want to change the men in their lives. They came because they feel confused, exhausted, or alone — trying to connect with a father who won’t talk, a partner who shuts down, or a son who seems unreachable. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is he like this?” — not in anger, but in longing — this article is for you. Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Parenting Coach, Ben Ang, discusses how you can understand the men in your life.

Many men are taught to be strong, silent, and self-reliant — but few are taught how to cope when life, relationships, and fatherhood feel overwhelming. Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Ben Ang, explores how traditional masculinity shapes men’s emotional lives, why anger is often misunderstood, and how redefining strength can create healthier men, families, and relationships.