Gottman Method Couple Therapy, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is a popular approach to couples counseling that focuses on strengthening relationships through effective communication, conflict resolution, and fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation between partners. This method is grounded in research from the Gottman's extensive study over several decades.
Currently, our therapists who provide Gottman Method Couple Therapy are: Stacey Lee Henderson, Lim Swee Chen, Anne Ueberbach, & Ho Shee Wai.
Gottman Method Couple Therapy
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This is the foundation of Gottman therapy. It consists of nine components:
-trust
-commitment
-building love maps
-sharing fondness and admiration
-turning towards instead of away
-the positive perspective
-managing conflict
-making life dreams come true
-creating shared meaning. -
Gottman Therapy identifies four negative communication styles that predict relationship failure: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Gottman Therapy works to recognize and replace these behaviors with healthier communication patterns.
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The approach emphasizes the importance of building a strong emotional connection and enhancing friendship. This involves knowing each other's likes, dislikes, fears, hopes, and dreams (referred to as “Love Maps”).
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Gottman Therapy does not aim to eliminate conflict but teaches couples how to manage conflict constructively. This includes learning how to have respectful, calm discussions, even during disagreements.
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The method encourages couples to increase positive interactions and experiences in their relationship. This is based on the idea that a higher ratio of positive to negative interactions in a relationship (ideally 5:1) is a strong predictor of lasting relationships.
