By Anne Ueberbach
Assistant Director/Registered Counsellor
A red flag is a warning sign of unhealthy or toxic behaviors within a relationship. They can occur in any relationship – between friends, colleagues, family members or romantic partners.
It is extremely important to know how to spot and identify red flags. While some are rather obvious, others may be a lot harder to spot. A lot of times we also simply accept red flags and normalize them, thinking things like “that’s just how this person is”.
As therapists in our work with clients, if we are doing real therapy instead of managing a current crisis, we would often uncover stories of pain, suffering and trauma. It never ceases to amaze us the strength of the human spirit in overcoming such adversity and part of our joy in our work is to be witness and part of the process of bringing to blossom this strength within a person.
One trauma that is usually a deep secret that is rarely told until the process of therapy is that of sexual abuse. Survivors of sexual abuse often carry a lot of shame which should not be theirs, but nonetheless became deeply embedded within them. Dealing with shame and absolving them of blame are important steps they need to take to transform from survivor to victor. So how can you do that?
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