After the initial stage of dating, finding time to be together is a huge challenge for many couples. This is especially so for those who have the additional demands of children or demanding jobs. However, couple time together is important for the relationship to remain strong, and the closeness and intimacy to continue. So how can we have time for each other given the busy lives we have? Here are some suggestions in terms of ritual we can put in place in our lives as a couple:
1. Leave-Taking & Reunions
Don’t leave in the morning without knowing at least 1 thing that is going to happen in your partner’s life. When you come back home, greet each other with an affectionate kiss that is non perfunctory.
2. Mealtimes & after-meal coffee or tea
Come together at meals and share the events of the day. Each person gets a chance to talk. Make meals an environment of peace, affection, support and attention. Do not have your argument or conflicting discussion during dinners. After meal, one person makes coffee or tea and bring them out to the living room or balcony where you can talk for half an hour or an hour, relaxing with each other.
3. Morning rituals & bedtimes
Instead of morning being a chaotic time of getting ready, focus on sending everyone off with positive wishes and a good spirit. At night, going to bed is a time where there is cuddling and physical affection. Don’t go to sleep without a deep kiss.
4. Dates and getaway
Ensure you have weekly dates and weekend getaway 3 times a years. These are times when the couple do something alone, without kids, focusing on each other.
5. Constant contact throughout the day
Keep each other in mind throughout the day. It doesn’t have to be anything long and elaborate. Send a photo of something interesting you saw during the day, a short “How’s your lunch?” or “I miss you” sms, or a call to say “I’m at the taxi stand on my way home, see you soon!”. Virtual flirting is also a welcomed break.
6. Team up on your to-do list
Talk and have a laugh while doing household chores such as folding laundry, doing the dishes, etc. Run errands together, and in the car, either turn off the radio and chat, or turn up the volume with both belting out your favourite songs.
7. Shower together
Save time and water, and not to mention spice up your sex life by taking a shower together once a week (or more). Use the time you saved to luxuriously admire your partner and express that admiration. Sex is optional!
8. Work out together
Be it a slow stroll after your dinner, a challenging game of tennis or an enthusiastic gym work out. These are times you can spend with your partner while getting healthier together.
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