In the parents’ own actions, ensure that they are speaking to the elderly in a respectful manner, show caring actions to the elderly, enquiring the elderly about their day, seeking the elderly’s advice on things, and spending time with the elderly themselves.
Incorporate routines that involves the elderly (e.g., dinner time will start with grandpa saying grace, Grandma is the one who gives sweet as reward for good behaviours, great aunt will take you to school). Get the elderly to participate in what the children are doing and vice versa (e.g., Mom why don’t you keep score of how many time Junior skip rope; Junior why don’t you help Grandma in the garden and help her put in the seed).
On the other hand, the elderly needs to show interest and try to keep up with the times and be in tune of what the grandkids are interested in (e.g., know the latest fad in cartoon, music, game and gadget). Engage the children in things the elderly are good at (e.g., show them ancient games, teach them interesting skills or tricks). Ask questions and play with them interactively (instead of just expecting them to come hug and kiss them to fulfill the elderly’s needs).