7 Types of Love
Many of us is focused on pursuing love. Are we aware of the different type of love and how to identify true love? Look at the relationship you are in and consider which of the 7 types of love you are in.
Adult Children of Divorced Parents
With the prevalence divorce rate, many of us are now growing up to be Adult Children of Divorced Parents. Having gone through the turmoils of our parents' divorce, we now feel the past is over and we can focused on living our own life, cutting our past and leaving it behind. What we may not be aware of the continued effect of this hurt in our current, present lives as adults.
Tricia* just realized that her husband, Kent*, doesn't want children, and she does. Emotionally it's hard for her to accept. Doubt start creeping into her mind: should spell the end of the marriage? While they did not have clear plan about having children, but Kent had made some indication that gave her the impression that he wanted children too. Why have he changed his mind?
*Not their real name
Julia* and Tom* are having a secret war over money. Tom is angry with Julia because no matter how much he earned, she spent it all. Every month, not only do they not have any saving, she managed to rake up even more credit card debts. Tom has no idea where the money went or how he is ever going to be able to pay off the debts. Coming from a family where the man is expected to be the breadwinner and provider, Tom decided it was his responsibility to provide for all of Julia’s “needs”. His solution for the situation is to work harder to provide but he is getting very resentful that Julia has so much needs. Julia, on the other hand, felt neglected and ignored by Tom and decided that she needs to spend to make herself feel good. This is a habit she learnt from her mother. Julia also noticed that Tom is working a lot and decided that since money is the most important thing for Tom, she’ll hit him where it hurts so maybe he would sit up and pay attention to her.
*Not their real name
Dealing with Holiday Stresses
Yes, that time of the year is upon us again! The upcoming holiday season can be a time of joy and peace. However, it can also be extremely stressful. There is increased pressure to put on a happy face and be merry, and that only makes things more difficult. Getting ready for the holidays means looking forward to good times, but it also means more work. It also means more time spent with relatives you may not really care to be with. Holiday parties, social gatherings, gift giving, family commitments, and personal responsibilities all require attention, planning, and energy - and these stresses can quickly damper your enjoyment of the holidays.
But there are several simple things you can do to make the holiday season more relaxing, meaningful, and stress-free for you and your family. Here are some tips for coping with holiday stresses:
Talking to Children About Sex
One of the most important but probably the most awkward conversation as parents we need to have with our children is on the topic of sex. In discussing the topic of sex, parents need to realize that it is not one conversation. Real sex education is a lifelong pursuit, talking to your kids about sex is a lifelong conversation. How can we tackle this discussion successfully?
After the initial stage of dating, finding time to be together is a huge challenge for many couples. This is especially so for those who have the additional demands of children or demanding jobs. However, couple time together is important for the relationship to remain strong, and the closeness and intimacy to continue. So how can we have time for each other given the busy lives we have? Here are some suggestions in terms of ritual we can put in place in our lives as a couple:
Seeing our friend or family member going through their struggle with eating disorder is not easy. Many of us feel helpless and lost in terms of how we can be of support and help to them. Find out some do's, don'ts, and preventive tips for eating disorder.
Having looked at the goals of coparenting, let's look at how we can communicate so as to facilitate this process.
Ms Ho Shee Wai